Over the years Iâ€™ve made numerous resolutions, some of them Iâ€™ve managed to follow through successfully, many others Iâ€™ve given up on months, weeks and sometimes even just days after making the resolution. This year, Iâ€™m looking back over the past year and previous resolutions, and I have a new resolution, one Iâ€™ve never made before.
1992 my resolutions were to lose weight (I had just given birth to my third son), be perfectly groomed, have a perfect home and write a column for my local newspaperâ€¦.I got the column and wrote it for 4 years.
1998 my resolutions were to lose weight, be perfectly groomed, have a perfect home, and homeschool my younger boysâ€¦.hahahahaha, well I did homeschool the boys and any of you who have homeschooled know exactly what happened to the rest of those resolutions.
2002 my resolutions were to lose weight, be perfectly groomed, move to Wyoming, have a perfect home and write. We moved to Wyoming.
2008 my resolutions were to lose weight, move back to California, be perfectly groomed and writeâ€¦.we moved back to California
2012 I resolved to lose weight, be perfectly groomed, have a perfect home and write a novel. I wrote the first draft of my novel, and began editing.
So my resolution for 2013â€¦to stop making resolutions and set goals.
When I look back at my list of resolutions, I noticed that each of the things that I actually achieved became a goal. I actually planned and followed steps to achieve my goal. The other things just stayed â€˜resolutionsâ€™. I resolved to â€˜lose weightâ€™, and had good intentions to do so even lost a few pounds here and there (and gained them back), but never made a plan that I could follow, never set real goals. I resolved to have a â€˜perfect homeâ€™, but of course I had three sons, a husband and a dog, seriouslyâ€¦probably not a reasonable goal!!
So for 2013 my new resolution is to set goals, and these are my goals:
I will have my first novel ready to submit by Valentineâ€™s, and the first draft of my second book done by July.
Iâ€™ll learn to write on the computer, instead of in a spiral notebook with a ten cent bic pen, although I really love to write that wayâ€¦.because now that I have a day job, Iâ€™ll never reach my first goal unless I make this my second.
Iâ€™ll have a manicure at least once a month. (Iâ€™m going to have to slowly work up to â€˜perfectly groomedâ€™.)
As for the perfect house, hahahahaha, Iâ€™m a writer. Did anyone really think that would happen?
So OCC members, are you making resolutions or setting goals? What do you plan to accomplish this year? Tell us right here, and weâ€™ll get back to you this time next year and compare notes!!
Happy New Year everyone, see you at the January meeting
You guys always make my day. Thank you all for sharing your goals and your comments!
Nancy…homeschooling,that says it all for me. I didn't write, get more than the minimum housework done, and as far as grooming, I was happy to get my daily shower…running a brush through my hair was a bonus!
Char…thank you for sharing your glee! YOU are one of the most positive people I know.
Kara…thank you, I'm still working on it!
See you all Saturday!
My goals for 2013:
a) continue to work on improving craft, especially storycraft.
b) kick myself in the butt and do marketing.
c) write everyday, read everyday, study everday, even if it's only for 5 minutes.
Well, Tari, if it's any comfort, you always seem rather well groomed to me!
I used to be a goal-setter par excellence. I used to give workshops on this subject. What has happened to me????
My goal is to find 'glee' in the small things that happen every day. I'm stealing that idea from author Holly Jacobs, who is the most positive person I know.
By making the goal specific, the chance of success increases. That's how I work. I created a notebook just for publisher calls for submissions which currently has 15 themed calls with deadlines and 8 open-ended series. My 2013 goal is to write and submit to 5 of the themed calls and 3 of the open-ended series. These are of varying lengths from 5K-30K.
Now, I've put it out there, I need to get to work.
Uh-oh, Maria! You better not mean by #2 — the need to learn to say, "No."
My goals this year are:
1. to accept myself as being perfectly imperfect.
2. to work on my NEED to volunteer.
3. to finish my 2nd book during BIAY
4. to edit my first book and submit it to one and all.
I loved the losing weight, perfect home, perfect grooming. I would have those goals and not achieve them too, especially since I homeschooled. Maybe we should have the goal of being a perfect mess and the opposite would happen. lol
I tend to not make New Year's resolutions because I don't keep them. Last year I did make the decision to not say negative things about anyone, including myself. (That was the hardest part.) I'm not sure how successful I was, but just having the goal made me more aware of the need to change. As for goals, I love the sign up sheet at OCC. Every month I put down two writing goals that are achievable. This helps me keep on track with my writing.
Thanks for sharing.
Great goals ladies!! Maybe I need to re-evaluate!! See you all at the meeting next week!!
Great post! I'm a process person, and just by setting a general direction and applying effort i can get a lot done! My immediate goal is to finish my WIP by the end of January and since i'm only 11K into it, that's a BIG goal! There are a few gazillion subgoals as well, but that's the biggie! See you at OCC. : )
I loved the "perfect home" while homeschooling three boys and writing!
My goals for 2013:
1. Finish my romantic comedy by March.
2. Work on the growing list of short story mystery ideas.
3. Not let Nikkiâ€™s goals make me feel like a slacker.
Great post chica! Love your list. I also love that your pacing yourself. My list…Here's my list…that I made in December and put in a word doc.
1. Finish the Karmic Lust Series.
2. Write some M/M and F/F stories.
3. Sub to Loose ID.
4. Continue to work on YA Till Zombies Come for Evernight Teen
5. Work on existing WiPs.
6. Finish up sequels (Mocha Kisses 2, Milf 2).
I totally love the "perfectly groomed" resolution. Wow, I've never done that one! Of course, that manicure will have to come right before the second Saturday of the month, right?
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