I would rather iron wrinkled cotton pleated skirts.
I would rather have a tooth pulled without drugs.
All right. All right.
I would rather clean bathrooms than go shopping. Considering I live with men who think “close” counts in other things beside horseshoes and grenades, two toddlers who LOVE unrolling and splashing, and a dog who thinks bathroom rugs are alive and must stalked and then shaken bald for the safety of the family and good of all mankind, thatâ€™s saying a lot.
I know this is a character flaw because when I confessed to my Great-Aunt Alice she gasped, loud. Then she took my right hand in both of hers and said, “Marianne, you are not a Hebert.” Which in our family was akin to condemning someone to eternal damnation. In-laws in the Hebert family are “jokingly” referred to as out-laws, and we even made up tee-shirts that said so for the family reunion.
It didnâ€™t escape my notice that this was only considered a female character flaw and not a male one. I canâ€™t remember seeing my dad or one of my three brothers in a store. Iâ€™m pretty sure the words, “Iâ€™m going shopping.” have never been utter by any of them. None of them were told they werenâ€™t Heberts.
My three sisters however are a different story. They love shopping. They plan shopping excursions with the cunning second only to Hannibalâ€™s army scaling the Alps on the back of elephants. And they bring home spoils of the war. They expect me to admire their prowess at finding the last puce handbag at thirty percent off. They assure me that will go with the sweater they scored last year. I try to be suitably admiring, but I just donâ€™t get it. I have four hand bags, a gold beaded job for wedding and things, a black one for winter, a white one for summer, and a red tote that the Alpha Smart will fit into for conference. I canâ€™t imagine wanting a puce one, or using it either.
Occasionally they will invite me to go alone on their shopping safaris. It took me a while to realize that the occasions always coincided with Christmas and packed parking lots.
Not to brag or anything, but I excel at Competitive Parking. I honed my skills as a undergraduate at Cal Poly, where the administration sold a billion (more or less) parking passes for each and every marked parking space. If some little blonde coed communication major, with a belly button ring, a red Mazda Miata, and a giant boyfriend to carry her one paperback text book thought she was getting MY parking space when I had a thirty pound calculus book, a forty pound chemistry book and the entire works of Shakespear and ten seconds to get to class â€“well all I can say is HA! I can still spot a car backing out of a space close to the front of a building 8.3 miles away. I will get there first.
But once I parked the car for them, I was quickly abandoned at the nearest Nordstromâ€™s with a cup of coffee, a thick paperback and the instructions not to wander too close to the shoe section, because everyone knows buy shoes is NOT really shopping and my closet is sort of full. (Okay, so the sentence, “You canâ€™t buy another pair of shoes unless you throw out a pair first.” has been spoken a time or two at my house. I just think the person saying that should fork over his closet as well because those three pairs of shoes and the flip-flops he owns are lonely.)
My sisters even buy their own gas. I canâ€™t figure out why they donâ€™t have gas fairies living at their houses, but they donâ€™t. Itâ€™s sad. Gas fairies are pretty handy. When I need gas I just sort of casually mention it during dinner. Then the next morning “magic” my car has a full tank of gas. The gas fairy sometime grouses about the fact the tank was a third full when this conversation usually takes place. Excuse me, a third full is the same as saying two-thirds empty which means that tank is more empty than it is full.
None of my children inherited the shopping gene. My daughter, Steph, didnâ€™t carry a handbag until she was twenty-five. She even pales at the mention of new shoes. She borrowed my car one time but immediately brought it back because it was making this weird pinging noise. The gas fairy had to explain it was the car signaling it need gas. (Who knew?)
But her daughter, Maddie, who is only two years old, loves shopping.
Steph, Maddie and I do video conferences a few times a week. When I ask Maddie what sheâ€™s going to do that day, she always makes her eyes go wide and squeals, “Shopping.”
Then she runs around in circles clapping her hands.
Itâ€™s a little scary.
Steph looks at Maddie running in circles and says, “That is NOT my fault.”
But we know who to blame.
Maddie got more than her big blue eyes from the gas fairy.
Marianne Donley writes quirky murder mysteries fueled by her life as a mom and a teacher. She makes her home in Pennsylvania with her supportive husband Dennis and two loveable but bad dogs. Her grown children have respectfully asked her to use a pen name which she declined on the grounds that even if some of their more colorful misdeeds make it into her plots, who would know the books are fiction. Besides they weren’t exactly worried about publicly humiliating her while growing up.
Thanks Rosemary. I wrote this last year just before David had his stroke. I'd forgotten all about it. However, YOU are the sister I was most thinking about, so I'm glad you enjoyed it.
on December 28, 2009
Marianne, loved this!! As the sister that got YOUR shopping gene along with her own, I even like going to the grocery store, and gettig gas. If I have to pay for it I love it. I have a money fairy instead of gas fairy, I sort of mention the checking account is getting low, and behold it has more money. It is weird though how my oldest got your anti shopping gene. I more than made up for it with my next one though. Well hope you had a happy christmas, we missed you Christmas eve. Love to all
on December 22, 2008
Marianne, loved it! I don’t have the shopping gene, either, so can relate.
on December 17, 2008
I was sort of impressed with the spam myself. Especially considering my view of buying handbags!
Gas fairies are pretty handy. Jen has one, too!
on December 17, 2008
Hi Marianne! The entire internet is in a frenzy over your anti-shopping manifesto! You’re even getting spam!! LOL
I got a case of the vapors when I read your line “I hate shopping” As a shopaholic myself, all I can say is when I die, I want my ashes scattered over the nearest shopping center.
on December 15, 2008
No, bookstores are not shopping. They are time machines. You go in and POW three seconds later you realized you’ve been there for four hours. It’s weird.
Starbucks is not shopping either. Starbucks is a little slice of heaven on earth.
on December 15, 2008
Too funny, Marianne! Boy do I relate to the loathing shopping thing. My husband does a lot of the shopping and he does it cheerfully. However, he doesn’t browse so I generally don’t take him to bookstores (which also does not count as shopping!)